I was in college and had been seeing this guy for a little over a month and had never felt so strongly for someone else, ever.We spent a ton of time together and I figured we were heading toward being “official” but it wasn’t a pressing matter on my mind, it just lingered in the depths.Don’t let other people tell you how your relationship should or shouldn’t be.Every relationship is a unique experience and moves at a different rate.
Let this information penetrate your being and embolden you.
But it all took a turn when me and my friends went to the bathroom to fix our faces and they started getting in my ear about how strange it was that he and I weren’t official yet, and what a bad sign that was.
In addition to a fresh coat of powder and gloss, I left the bathroom with a giant chip on my shoulder.
If he’s iffy or on the fence, he’ll stall or come up with excuses. You approached him in a confident, direct manner and conveyed to him in your own way that you want the relationship to be official. Let him speak and express what’s on his mind and be open to hearing his point of view, even if it’s counter to your own or isn’t what you were hoping to hear.
Again, just make sure you don’t come at him from a needy or desperate place. Don’t blame or attack him for feeling the way he does, just acknowledge what he’s saying and tell him you understand where he’s coming from (and try to do this genuinely).