We started chatting but never had a proper conversation, both logged in at different times.One day he sent me a message and gave me his mobile number.I have been quite an active user on Oasis for the past few years. Until one day a guy with nickname Jiwa Muda liked me.We were the same faith so I said to myself, what the heck and liked him back. there’s a party every night and everything is included!!
You could see this as a “wake-up call in your marriage to examine problems in the communication between the two of you and to address this.
I feel a bit betrayed and worry about whether I can trust him.
When I spoke to him again about it, he did apologise and said he won’t do it again but he then came out with a load of stuff about how unhappy he was in the marriage, that we never spend time together (which is true), but I don’t think it is fair for him to blame me.
Moving forward In the aftermath of discovering your husband’s online world, it is perfectly understandable that you might feel disgusted and betrayed and to worry as to how much you can trust your husband.
You might benefit from going to counselling especially if you feel traumatised and need to the help of an impartial listener to process some of the feelings.